For those of us who’ve struggled with body, eating or weight issues, food can become our comfort. We turn to food in times of sadness, to soothe our souls, to make us feel better, or to find a reprieve from the busy world. Do you turn to food for comfort?  Then today’s blog is for you 🙂

Much of my own life, I’ve sought comfort in food.

I used ice cream to soothe heartbreaks, cookies to fill the emptiness I had inside, and candy to find solace from the angst that was my constant companion.

If you turn to food for comfort, here are a few tips to help you learn to soothe yourself in other ways: 

1. Explore What Else Brings You Comfort.

At first, you may not know. This is normal, because if we did know, we wouldn’t turn to food!

But ask yourself this question again and again and again. Let an answer come. Experiment with it.

For me, it’s writing in my journal, releasing tears, gentle yoga music and a soothing yoga pose, laying in bed and hugging a pillow, being in the silence of nature and giving myself whatever self-care I need in the moment.

Think about it: as kids, we had a lot to bring us comfort! We may have sucked our thumbs, had a blanket, received hugs from a parent, collected stuffed animals, built our own fort, or any of the other myriad of ways kids soothe themselves.

As adults, we have to learn how to give ourselves that comfort we used to constantly receive as kids.

What makes you feel loved? What fills your soul with that “ahhhh” feeling?

2. Allow Yourself To Be An Emotional Being.

A part of turning to food for comfort is the belief that we aren’t allowed to have emotions. We “shouldn’t” feel sad, anxious, stressed, lonely, annoyed, mad, or whatever it is we feel, so we eat to make it go away.

But when you allow emotions, you start to realize that we can experience 15 different emotions in a day, an hour or a minute. We’re human. We’re complex and yes, we have, a lot of emotions.

(BTW-It took me a LONG TIME to accept this about myself. I felt too “intense” and emotional to really fully accept myself and let the world see that part of me.)

When we begin to allow ourselves to have emotions and move through them, we let the emotional process run its course (and then we don’t need to turn to food!)

3. What Is Your Soul Really Longing For?

Often times, we can eat to fill a void within ourselves; we want comfort, a reprieve, a way to soothe the inner anxiety we didn’t know was there. Here’s an excerpt from my book I wrote related to this:

I’ve been eating to fill the void within myself. I’ve been using food to fill the hole that I didn’t know I had. Now I know. That hole is bottomless. There is no end to it, and no way that I could ever give it enough food to feel truly satisfied. The emptiness I’ve been feeling is the connection I’ve lost with myself, with my spirit. It’s been dormant for so long that I didn’t even know it was there.

Turning to food is always a message. What is your soul asking for? Like #1, if you don’t know, the first step is asking and letting an answer come 🙂

4. Ask For Support. 

This can be the most challenging one of all 🙂 Typically, we think we can do it all ourselves. We manage everything else in our lives, can’t we manage this too?

But we are not meant to do life in isolation without help. We’re meant to ask for support, to reach out to others, to receive a hand when we need it.

When we want comfort, asking for support can be a wonderful way to open yourself up to receive what it is you need.

If we’re grieving a loss, if we’re stressed to the max, if our soul longs for connection, asking others for help is a beautiful thing 🙂

5. Remember…Other Tools Don’t Do What Food Does

This is last but most certainly not least!

When we first begin to look at how to comfort ourselves, we may try a yoga class or have a 1:1 convo with a friend. And we may feel mildly comforted, but think “that’s it?!”.

Food does something different: it seems to soothe our souls & comfort us in a way nothing else can.

But the problem is that it doesn’t really serve us. We need a new measure of what “comfort” means.

We can’t use the food coma as our barometer of success in comforting ourselves. 

In order to let go of turning to food, we need to remind ourselves that crying, journaling, talking, moving, or any other way to comfort us will be DIFFERENT than what food used to do.

It’s important to remind ourselves that, because food can seem to “take it away”. But it’s an illusion, because the problem stays in the background and we never deal with what it is we need to face.

It’s Your Turn–

Do you turn to food for comfort? Which part of the blog can you implement to help you find other ways to soothe yourself? Share in the comments below 🙂